Homestead Heritage says even a spouse in a long-term covenant marriage is "dead" if they leave Homestead - allowing remarriage of the favored spouse

Steven Avery

MADR - Marriage Permanence


So God has totally ordered our obligations in marriage by situating it within the more comprehensive and greater covenant of His church, and they derive from our obligations to Him and the Body that He has purchased with His blood, that great family called by His Name through whose veins flow the cleansing blood of Jesus. We have no life outside of His Body, for the life is in the blood (Lev. 17:11). If we lose connection to the blood-bought Body of His resurrected life, we lose connection to the Body’s Head; and death, the decomposition of life, sets in to dissolve all relationships—including marriage.

As Jesus said to those who did not serve the least of His brothers, whom He had purchased into His family, “Depart from Me, you who are cursed” (Matt. 25:41-45). A curse cuts off, separates, severs the accursed from the life of God as expressed through His Body: no salvation exists outside of Jesus and the corporate Body that represents His fullness (Eph. 1:22, 23; Col. 1:18, 19). And surely, if either party of the marriage covenant breaks faith with the Body, and that with finality, therefore becoming worse than an unbeliever (1 Tim. 5:8), “twice dead,” the setting aside of the obligations to this blood covenant puts their marriage covenant in danger of the dissolution characteristic of all death (Rom. 7:2-3). If the unfaithful partner treats “as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified him” (Heb. 10:29), forcing the faithful spouse to decide whether to remain faithful to the blood covenant with God as expressed through the covenant with the Body (as shown above) or to remain in the marriage covenant, then the marriage covenant must suffer the dissolution, as Jesus said (Luke 14:26). The unbeliever is no longer sanctified, as in 1 Corinthians 7:14. for he has done despite to "the blood covenant that sanctified him,” and his departure from the faith, which constitutes his spiritual death (Prov. 21:16; Jude 12), releases the faithful spouse from his or her marital vows (Rom 7:2-3; 1 Cor. 7:15). If this ultimate conflict occurs, their marriage covenant clearly secondary to the blood covenant of Christ’s Body. Again, we repeat, only in Him do all things hold together (Col. 1:17). And you cannot be "in Christ" apart from being in that Body over which He governs as Head. If you are disconnected from the Body, then you are disconnected from the Head.
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Steven Avery

On the Homestead Herotocs youtube

Joe, you might want to save the audio mentioned by Lynn, you are good at that :)
She gave the approximate minutes.
Otherwise, probably I could find the right tool. And I do have the transcript (would they do editing?)

Homestead trips over all the marriage issues and then make their bogus “no divorces” claim, when they will go through hoops to deceive on that claim. Would be better if they were honest. “We have had some difficult situations involving divorce”. Rather than their quickly shipping people in and out, to seek plausible deniability.

“Standing” for a marriage is now old hat.

They have even had three ladies that go back to early days in NJ enter into what are, from the marriage permanence perspective, adulterous “remarriages”, one recent. Sad.

There are also persistent reports of their dangling “remarriage” with newbies, covenant spouses, even helping along the divorce. The one they favor, let’s see about round two. Remember, if someone leaves, or strongly resist by Christian conviction, they can be pseudo-dead, as described in their literature. When a spouse is pseudo-dead, let’s hold out the cherry of a remarriage, “it can be arranged”. Pseudo-dead (not in the Body) is good enough.

When a person contemplates an adulterous remarriage, the Holy Spirit does whisper along the lines “oops, check your pure Bible.”

Now it is true that the “Christian church” as a whole has lost its moorings on marriage permanence, with some wonderful notable exceptions.

Blair and Regina were reasonably strong during the first decade. The slope has been slip sliding away, especially since about AD 2000.

Steven Avery

April 6, 2024

On the marriage permanence question. If one spouse leaves, after many years in the Homestead community, are they considered as “dead” because they left covenant? And thus the spouse who remains at Homestead are able to be divorced and remarried?